If Wedding Vows Were Honest

This blog is for all the young christian women that did everything right and it still didn’t work. I want to encourage you today that you’re not alone no matter what the enemy tries to tell you. I pray that this blog encourages you and show you that we all make mistakes. At one point or another, we have made bad decisions or decisions where we were blinded to or even deceived. Be on your guard and stay awake. Your enemy, the devil, is like a roaring lion, sneaking around to find someone to attack. 1 Peter 5:8. The good news is that you may have fallen but you’re not out the game.

Here’s a small story of how the enemy came into our camp. BUT…the Lord had our back. {{In words of Tye Tribbett…the devil thought he had me, thought that my life was over —> HE TURNED IT}} The full blog story by my daughter HERE: My daughter was dating this guy. He seemed very intelligent, smart and he was super adorable. He had a #manbun and was a christian. {{so he said}}. He prayed with my daughter, for my daughter and they read their word together, etc. A few months later, my daughter’s birthday was coming up and he decided to visit, celebrate and ask for her hand in marriage. We prayed about her marrying him and things seemed like they were awesome. After a few weeks, the “real” him began to show. He began to “idolize” my daughter. He wouldn’t do anything without her. Now, yes that may seem like a dream come true, but a man of God isn’t supposed to be “100%” into a woman. He should love her the way Christ loves the church, but he shouldn’t seek approval for everything that he does from her. I started noticing it after the marriage and after she found out she was pregnant. He would never come out the room unless she was home. When she came home he began to follow her everywhere and didn’t give her any space. She became quickly annoyed. I tried to counsel them, but he would YES & AMEN me, but he never put anything I said into reality. Meanwhile, he was going back to his parents, family and friends telling them awful things about his “WIFE” that he LOVED so much and they began to form an opinion about her without knowing BOTH sides. As a mom, I tried to reach out to them several times but I was just ignored. I guess that’s what you get when you mix the world. I used to get slack for being on top of my children. GIVE THEM SPACE, my friends would say. But I found out the hard way that THAT was the last thing. I needed to protect my children the way the Bible instructed. I Thess 5:22 tells us to abstain from all appearances of evil. Basically what this means is to avoid any type of attitudes and/or behaviors that would be considered “evil or ungodly.”

When you choose a spouse, not only he should be God fearing but make sure that his parents also know the Lord and are raising him according to biblical standards. That's super important.

Fast Forward… My daughter’s husband stressed her out so badly that she passed out in restroom at work and had to be rushed to the hospital. That evening I tried to speak to him while we waited but I learned something. The blinders were removed and the deception was unveiled. Why am I writing this blog? Because I have so many Seniors that get married early and I pray that they don’t ever have to experience what my daughter went through. Our testimonies are made to help others. Not just for ourselves. We’re called the body of Christ for a reason. Without the neck, the head doesn’t work. Without the knees, we can’t walk etc.

Do Christians get deceived? ABSOLUTELY… What can we do to try to avoid this? Here’s 5 ways to avoid being deceived.

1. PRAY - I know this has been said so many times. Pray and make sure you have accountability partners to pray with you so you’re not hearing your flesh.

2. KNOW YOUR VALUES. In everything that you do, have a list of what’s acceptable to you, to the Lord and lines up with the Bible. Make sure that you give your best & accept the best in everything and speak and receive the truth in love.

3. WALK IN THE SPIRIT- Be transparent and vulnerable with the right people, but be on guard from those who you have not formed a valid friendship with. Release others from the responsibility of making you whole and use integrity in EVERYTHING that you do.

4. TEST THE SPIRIT BY THE SPIRIT - God gives every bird it’s food, but he does not throw it into its nest. PRAY & LISTEN. Listen and respond. Do not believe every spirit. Never trust what you can only see, even salt looks like sugar. Satan is not fighting church; he is joining them. He does more harm by sowing tares than by pulling up wheat. He accomplishes more by imitation than outright opposition. He can ONLY copy God. He can NEVER pro-create and that’s why we must be careful.

5. AVOID TEMPTATION- With the way social media is teaching the youth, it’s super hard being modest, single or Christ-like. A man has done NOTHING for you until he has made you a wife. Stop idolizing boyfriends. -The aim of the wise is not to secure pleasure, but to avoid pain ~Aristotle -Temptations come, as a general rule, when they are sought. ~ Margaret Oliphant

YOU DON’T MARRY A MAN’S POTENTIAL, YOU MARRY HIS REALITY!

THE END RESULTS…

My daughter is now 5 months pregnant to an amazing baby boy. She has began to seek the Lord for guidance even more. She is learning to ask her elders to pray with her and for her about specific situations and most importantly she has become teachable and humble and “obedient” to those who are reaching out to assist her. I don’t believe the Lord wanted her to be single raising her son alone, but I thank HIM that we are never alone. He will never leave us, nor forsake us. I am praying for each and every young woman that is enduring being a #singlemother and I pray that the Lord sends you a true man of God to be a covering/spouse for you and your child/children. Even in these images, you can see the glory of the Father all upon Chynjah. #OakleyStephen

I want to pray for every young lady reading this blog: Father, I thank you for every young lady that is reading this blog today. I pray that you nullify, dismantle, cancel and authoritatively oppose any satanic operations, maneuvers, manipulations, wicked strategics, tactics. ploys, which are designed to hinder, prevent, frustrate, deny or delay God's original plans & purposes form their swift & speedy manifestation in their lives.

I pray that they seek your counsel, help them to discern, as nothing escapes your sight. Guide them Lord. Give them a healthy spirit, a clear eye and wisdom. Help them to identify and presence of the enemy, trying to trap or tempt them into the sin of pride or vanity. Set them free of their flesh, so that they may see with, the eyes of Christ. Let them identify the spirit, behind any choices that they must make.

May your Holy Spirit fill them and guide them so they will only desire to walk in obedience. For you alone are HOLY. You are sovereign Lord and and may all my decisions glorify you & your beloved Son, Jesus Christ. In His sweet & Holy name.

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