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Marrying your HS Sweetheart

Well, let me start off by saying that Jimmy and I weren't exactly HS Sweethearts. Actually we weren't sweethearts at all. We actually didn't like one another in the 9th grade. I thought he was snobby and he thought I was a loud mouth lol.

By the beginning of sophomore year, I didn't have lunch with any friends except Jimmy and I didn't want to change my schedule because my classes were pretty awesome. So...I wind up just going to lunch with Jimmy. What started out as me and his BFF as friends turned into him and I being the best of friends from 10th-12th grade and beyond.

Jimmy was shy and quiet and I was totally opposite. Jimmy was on track and I was the captain of the cheerleading team. It's safe to say, Jimmy became popular because of "me!" {{It's ok, he'll admit it as well}}.

So, what happened you asked? How did we get together? It was senior year and my female best friend Melanie lived in Brooklyn while my family relocated to Manhattan. I would talk to Melanie's brother on the phone almost every day until she came home and after a few months of flirting...we started dating. After HS, we had two different views of what we felt life should be so we broke it off.

Where was JImmy??? Right there making sure I was ok. Of course at this point, Jimmy was dating someone else, but he was still the best friend ever. After the heart break of my BF, one day while going to visit family, Jimmy asked me out. He saw beyond shy, but he finally did it. I thought he was just joking so I said no... Like, dude..date my best friend wasn't what I was looking for. About 3 days later, we were going shopping {{in which he honestly hated, but he went for me of course}} he said again..you still didn't answer my question.

I wind up saying, YES!!!

Dating someone from HS takes a lot of patience, God and getting to know one another. Although we were married for 14.5 years, we did divorce. But here's why... LISTEN UP!!!! IF YOU DECIDE TO MARRY YOUR HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART, HERE'S SOME SUGGESTIONS.

1. Make sure you two are equally yoked. What does that mean? You both want the same things in life and have a full vision on how to implement those plans.

2. Plan for changes. If you decide to get married early..remember, that in life you're going to grow. With growth, comes change. With changes, comes compromise. I always tell my children, give one another time for growth at least every 5 years. Am I saying become a different person?? Well, ONLY if God says so. What I'm saying is that we live and learn. So learn together, except faults, forgive and move on.

3. DO NOT FOCUS ON THE PAST unless it helps your future.. If you remember when he used to have a crush on someone in high school and it brings bad thoughts, grow up and let it go. If you remember how he used to bring you flowers to 4th period...allow that to keep the romance and the love.

4. This should have been first, but KEEP GOD FIRST.. without Him in the center of your marriage, it will not work. {{The primary reason marriage is significant to God is because it is part of His ordained plan to provide the world with a picture of His love for men and women. Marriage becomes the means for married couples to demonstrate their love for God.

http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/gods-plan-for-marriage/embracing-gods-purposes-for-marriage}}

5. Last but not least. DO NOT FALL OUT OF LOVE... Love is a choice. Falling in love is one of the most easiest things to do. Falling out of love is difficult. Begin to find little things that you love about your spouse. Remember the good times. Date your spouse. Take time for one another. LISTEN & RESPOND..to one another and most importantly - PRAY TOGETHER. A family that prays together and avoid all forms of evil, will make it to many blissful years of marriage!

Until next time,

xoxo

Miss Araebia

Miss Araebia is a widow mom to 6 beautiful children. She is a HS Senior Photographer, lover of Christ & mentor to many young women. Her story about true love coming soon.

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