Does he like me?

This is a reblog from here.

Even being 41 years old, I often wonder if a guy that I'm interested in, is interested back. As I am on the search for this "thing" called purity...I found this helpful article. I hope it helps you as well.

Mixed Signals

So if the answer to the "does he like me" question was affirmative and your suspicions were confirmed, you may be wondering why sometimes he doesn’t return your call or text or why he sometimes seems really distant and cold.

What the world calls sending “mixed signals,” the Bible calls “double-mindedness”.

“For he that wavereth (doubts) is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed….A double minded man is unstable in all his ways “ (James 1:6, 8).

Does that describe your friend?

• One weekend he seems to be really into you and a couple of days later he’s distant and rude?

• Does he usually want to hang out but recently he’s giving you lame excuses or flaking on you last minute?

• Sometimes he locks eyes with you but now he avoids eye contact?

As James 1:6, 8 points out, he may be experiencing some significant doubts.

Does he like you? Yes. Does he want to make a commitment just yet? Probably not.

There is likely a conflict between his heart and his head (feelings and logic). He is probably just as confused as you.

Here are some potential reservations:

1. He wants to move forward but doesn’t know if it’s the right time - He may have convictions to finish school first - He may feel the need to be financially able to provide for a family before committing to a relationship - He wants to be more mature/ have more life experience or overcome some particular sin before feeling adequate enough for you. - He knows he’s too young to get into a serious relationship. - He may need to focus on other time sensitive projects that he should not get distracted with by having a relationship.

2. He doesn’t know if you’re interested and he’s afraid or rejection.

3. He’s never been through this before and doesn’t know how to move forward. He’s nervous.

4. He may be struggling spiritually with the question of whether or not this is God’s will. He doesn’t have peace about it.

5. He may be attracted to someone else at the same time and doesn’t know who he should pursue.

6. He may like a lot of things about you but not everything. Needs more time to get to know you

7. He really likes the attention he receives from you (friendship/intimacy) but doesn’t want to make a commitment.

8. He may just be playing along because he’s too afraid to turn you down.

Whatever the reason, you deserve someone who IS ready. Remember, the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. See "Gods Timing"

“To trifle with hearts is a crime of no small magnitude in the sight of a holy God.” (Adventist Home, 57)

Although you may like him a lot, if he isn’t ready for a commitment, don’t let him trample your heart. Wise King Solomon says, "Keep thy heart with all diligence" (Proverbs 4:23).

Pull back and show him that you respect yourself and him enough to not play around with his or your affections. Trust God to make him (or someone else) pursue you at the right time. Des he like me? A better question to ask is "Is he ready for a commitment?"

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